In the spring of 2004, my wife and I enjoyed a week-
long bicycle ride across Missouri on the Katy Trail. During
the ride I enjoyed hours and hours of contemplation and I
made several observations.
Throughout the beautiful ride I noticed that when I saw
a stick or rock on the path ahead and watched it carefully
so I could miss it with my wheels, I usually hit it. The
more I focused on the objects, the more likely I would run
over them.
I also noticed that if I focused harder on missing it, I could.
We hit the targets of our focus.
To live a life of balanced happiness, we must focus on
all of the most important areas of our lives. If we provide
enough focus on our marriage, our love will grow and our
relationship strengthens. Our families will remain close,
supportive, and loving if focus on them.
If you have a religious faith, live it fully. Be steadfast in
keeping the standards of your faith. Don’t let situations
dictate your religious performance. Let nothing dissuade
you. Dedicate adequate time to your spiritual growth.
As we focus on our careers, we will achieve the success
we pursue.
Some simple tips follow. If you use the following tips as
minimum focus requirements you will be well on your way
to balanced happiness.
. Have a weekly date with your spouse. Be creative.
. Be consistent.
. Once a week, let no outside influence keep you from
spending concentrated time with your family. Protect the
evening. Turn off your phones. Play games, eat delicious
refreshments, and teach your values to your children.
. Consistently eat dinner with your family. Make your family
dinners pleasurable experiences.
. Set aside daily time for spiritual study, prayer and reflection.
. Work hard when you are at work. Concentrate your
efforts on meeting your most important professional goals.
. Listen, observe, and learn from life continually.
. Take time to ponder the status of your marital, family,
spiritual, and professional lives. Assess your effectiveness
in each area. Make improvements as needed.
These steps will not guarantee balanced success and
happiness. But by following them, focusing on these four
important areas of your life, you will certainly improve your
balanced success.
You take control of your life by setting boundaries on
outside interference from less important sources.
We hit the targets of our focus.
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It’s not what’s happening to you now or what has happened
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and what you’re going to do about them that will determine
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If you focus on results, you will never change. If you focus
on change, you will get results.
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